A lot of men are afraid to approach girls simply because they fear rejection. As a guy, I fight with strategy anxiety and certainly will continue struggling until I reach my mid-twenties (I decide the mid-twenties as a cutoff as it seems such as the time in which a guy’s brain eventually matures and he becomes a man).
Starting in the winter of 2011, I chose to adopt the process of becoming less shy around women. In the more fun, my experience and chillaxed your disposition when you approach a girl, the easier it is for her to relax and feel open to meeting someone new.
I was wanting to find things to do when not working 60 hours per week and chose an internship in a local TV station. I hear a guy use a really cute tinder cheesy pickup line on a girl, one day. He explained, “ If you were a triangle, you’d be a cute one.”
And I crack up hearing him with such ballsy corniness. Unexpectedly, my thoughts start an idea: why not test the corniest pickup lines out and see what the results are?
Therefore I recruit my awesome Russian friend David, grab my camera, and visit a nearby college campus to banter with the random girls we saw. Our purpose was to see by utilizing pickup lines that are silly if we’re able to pioneer foolish banter with females.
We both had a lot of pleasure, my buddy David had more success than I did, but through the method, as you’ll notice from seeing the video. Many of the girls we approached cracked up and had a topic of conversation with their friends for the day. One of the girls (the girl working in the café) told me afterward that she’s a student at an art school and loved the undeniable fact that people were YouTubing. A number of ladies kept looking at us waiting for our corny flirtations. After editing the video ingesting the footage, and putting it up on YouTube, I unexpectedly gained a lot of subscribers. They were mainly class or guys.
A female devotee writes this to the comment section of my YouTube station hardly a day after my video went up on YouTube:
I don’t know about any of it. I mean, you’re after girls you’ve no interest in other than to create a video so people can laugh at them going. Most of them only laugh and walk away. This really is one step above cat calling.
Following a brief dialogue in the comments section of my YouTube video, I will safely say that she a lover of mine. A few days later, I ”, find out that she went on a Korean Feminist site called “The Grand Narrative and phoned my video harassment.
Besides taking offense to what she thought was my exceptionally self-righteous tone after I answered to her YouTube comments, her core argument against my video was basically: we men will never really understand that that which we construe as compliments feels to many women. Her argument generated a tremendous disagreement on the feminist site (with strangers agreeing with her, taking a middle ground, or coming to my defense).
I will see what she means. After all, girls are physically weaker than men, and some have had negative experiences with “sketchy” guys harassing them on the roads or in pubs. For a woman, there’s inherently more risk in unfamiliar areas, so she’s always safer interpreting a flirtation with care, and being on the defensive when men approach.
There are some individuals nowadays who understand this and have mastered the craft of disarming what they call a “bitch shield.” Neil Strauss, the writer of “The Game” was the person who made the indirect approach famous by writing a complete novel about how precisely he learned from several pickup artists (PUAs). Men who understand the indirect approach will see a cute girl, go up to her, and after that start a conversation and build fascination indirectly. A common situation would be: the man pretends he needs a view and goes as much as a girl (or a group of girls), then transitions to a narrative or some type of routine that builds value, after she’s hooked and desires to learn more about him, he’ll build rapport and trust, isolate, escalate, close etc.
But that approach doesn’t work with everyone. My personality is quite blunt, and I’d preferably tell a haphazard beautiful girl I pass on the road that she’s beautiful when I get a fit of bravery. I understand my bluntness gets too much pressure on certain girls, why I thought pickup lines were a perfect tool, and that’s. If you ask me, pickup lines are a way for me to keep my bluntness but incorporate a bit of chatter that is amusing in the first strategy. Positive pickup lines are corny, but corniness is wit that is safe. Using some safe wit to express interest in a girl; what then that?
She didn’t understand, and so I told her:
“Only enough to break the ice.”
And she cracked up, and we talked for five full minutes. She was a really chill and smart woman studying business at a local college.
Why I shall continue to make use of pickup lines so that’s fundamental. All things considered, I’m not going to shift my character just because a number of folks get offended.
In the end, what do I know? I still need a couple of years before my mind and I’m only 22 completely develops. Maybe then I’ll look back at this stage of my own life and facepalm myself. But until then, I’ll continue making videos like these: